I still remember the time I caught an ex-boyfriend cheating on me. It was about a year before I met my husband. I’d been in that relationship for over a year and like the partner of many cheaters, I saw the signs but chose not to really see them. I made excuses for his lack of attention and his breaking plans. I looked the other way when he would flirt with other girls. “He’s not cheating, he’s just a friendly guy” I would say to myself and anyone else that questioned it. I wasn’t ready to accept that he was cheating. He would tell me whatever I wanted to hear to keep me – everything but the truth.
Sound familiar? Well, this story has a happy ending. It was Valentine’s Day and I was driving to school. As I was stopped at the light in Garden City, what should I happen to see but his car directly across from me waiting at the same light. Then I saw the girl in the seat next to him. They were all huggy-kissy and he had his arm around her while she was nibbling his neck – that is until he saw me scowling at him. Then he immediately pushed her away and watched as I drove by. Of course, he had an excuse when he finally caught up with me later that day. “I was going to buy you flowers for Valentine’s Day and she offered to help me pick some out” he said – very convincingly I might add. “Oh really? Where are they then?” I asked. He hadn’t thought of that. He wasn’t sure how to respond so I did it for him. “I’m done. Goodbye.” As he called after me, he was saying “You’ll regret this! You’ll never find another guy that wants you like I do.” “I certainly hope not!” I answered back to him, which made his frat brothers start laughing until he started swinging at them. I walked away and never looked back. A year later I met the love of my life, who then became my husband and we’ve been together ever since. So, you see, there are happy endings after what seems like the end of the world.
Now I was fortunate enough to stumble upon the answer myself that afternoon many years ago, but not everyone is lucky enough to do that. So, what would you do? What can you do? I’ll tell you – hire a Private Investigator. It’s the best investment you’ll make in confirming whether you’re in a relationship or a lie that looks like one. It doesn’t matter if you’re married or dating, if you have doubts then you should make sure those doubts are either warranted or just nerves. When you’ve been with your spouse for years and have a life together, maybe have some children together, and they suddenly start acting weird, there could be a very real explanation – or they’re cheating. If they are cheating, then you not only deserve to know, but need the proof to show to a lawyer and to the family that keeps telling you that it’s all in your head – that he or she is wonderful and you are lucky to have them. Once we follow them from work in Long Beach and see them slipping off to meet someone in Yonkers, we snap some videos and a few pictures and voila, you can get rid of them and start your new life without doubts. This is also an excellent time to think about a Private Investigator for some child custody surveillance, or maybe child support when the cheater is suddenly trying to convince the judge that they don’t make any money because they are out of work. But you know that they work off the books in Westchester. Now’s the time for surveillance! A few weeks of video of them working is exactly what you need to share with your lawyer and you’ll not only get your child support but may even increase it depending on what we find.
But some of you are saying to yourself, “but I’m not married, just dating.” Well, shouldn’t you know exactly what you are getting into? You should want to know that they are who they claim to be. Have you been dating a while and still have not seen their home? Why do you think that is? Have you not met their family? Their friends? Why not? They say they live in Greenwich CT but do they really? The best way to confirm this is with a Private Investigator. After all, do you really want to find out that they are married or in a relationship with someone else after you have dedicated so much of your life to them? Don’t you want to make sure that you are not “the other woman or man” in this scenario? Take it from someone that has been married over 30 years and is still as close as the day we met – if your partner is not truthful then it will never work. There is someone out there that is perfect for you, you just haven’t met them yet. If you have any doubts about who you are with now, then you are just wasting precious time that could be used with the person you are supposed to be with instead. If something in your gut is telling you that something is not right, it’s probably what you think it is. There’s a reason that we were born with instincts. They keep us (and our hearts) safe, but only if we listen to them. Call me old-fashioned, but I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Someone you are meant to be with for a lifetime. But there are also a lot of relationships that are not meant to be long-term. If you are ok with that, then that’s fine. But if you are looking for a partner for life, then don’t wait until you are in so deep with this one that it is harder to leave. Find out now so you can at least get the truth to help make a well-thought-out choice.
No one wants to be alone on Valentine’s Day (or any day for that matter), I get that. But if the person you are currently with is not being honest with you and is with someone else, aren’t you alone already? Don’t you deserve to find someone that genuinely cares about you and is devoted to you and only you? The answer is absolutely YES. It could be that there is someone else out there in the same position right now that is also reading this blog right this very minute. So, let’s start finding out the truth so you both can start fresh – maybe even together. You never know.
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