March is pothole season in New York City. In fact, this year, it is starting a little bit earlier. Just the other day, I was working on a surveillance case. I was following the subject and out of nowhere…BANG! I hit one of the thousands of potholes in Jackson Heights and there went my hubcap…again. I cannot begin to tell you how many times I lost hubcaps in NYC. It is probably one expense that people do not associate with the cost of being a private investigator, but in Queens and Brooklyn especially, it is a hazard of the business. This has happened so often that I recently had to replace the hubcaps yet again. I did not want to pay the cost of dealer hubcaps any more, as that was getting too expensive. So I went online and ordered a set of cheaper knockoff ones. After a while, I lost a couple of those and that is when it came to me. I put two hubcaps of the same style on one side and a different style on the other. And just like that, I had two different looks on my vehicle, which made me appear in two different ways when I drove down a road and then back the other way.
Cheaters are a lot like two styles of hubcaps. I know that sounds strange, but hear me out. When a cheater is with you, they act a certain way. They treat you a certain way, talk and look at you a certain way, etc. But when you are not around, they are a totally different person. They talk about you differently than when you are not there. They “change their emotional hubcaps” and become “two-faced” if you will when they are with someone else – a certain someone else. They have a different look to them.
The beginning of a relationship can start with all four metaphoric matching hubcaps. Everything you see is the real deal. However, when you get involved with a cheater, the hubcaps change depending on who they are with. The beginning of most relationships can be a great time period when the two people in the relationship are the ONLY two people in the relationship. It can be one that couples, both young and old, look forward to being together and find excuses to always remind the one they love that they are their “one and only”. They share sweet reminders that they are happy to have that person in their life in many different ways.
After a while, when the metaphoric hubcaps are no longer shiny and new, the relationship can mean different things for different people. It could mean making special dinner reservations for no reason or just ordering takeout from the place they went on their first date to in Canarsie, just to remind them that they are thinking of them. It can mean flowers or candy, a card or jewelry, or maybe tickets to a show or sporting event for a special date night or the anniversary of something. Whatever the case, there will usually be some sort of heartfelt gestures made on special days, such as anniversaries or holidays that symbolizes their love for you and just as important, their commitment to you. Love seems to be in the air for anyone that has a special someone in their life, but especially at the beginning of the relationship and even more so during holidays or anniversaries.
However, for some of you, that special someone may not be you. It may be that the person that you are devoted to may not be so devoted back. It could be that they are using two different sets of emotional hubcaps – one set for you and one set for someone else. This is unfortunately where we come into the picture. We often get calls from clients that are noticing that things are not necessarily adding up and it could very well be that they are giving you more excuses than they are kisses. They seem distracted, unmotivated, and not at all like they were when you first met. The hubcaps may not be matching on both sides of the car if you get my drift.
Don’t misunderstand that if they weren’t the romantic type all along, and they have stayed pretty consistent all these months or years that it means they are up to something. It simply means that if they are acting noticeably different in some way that could imply that they MAY be up to something. If you recall, in a previous blog we followed a young man because he was not available and was always tired only to find out he was out moonlighting so he could buy his girl a ring. So things may not always be bad necessarily. However, we were able to confirm for her that she had nothing to worry about. Having the luxury of a crystal ball to know what someone is up to is not a reality, however, hiring a private investigator is the next best thing. We can become your “crystal ball” and watch them without being noticed and see what they are doing when you are not there to see it. We can find out if they are sneaking out to get your Valentine’s day surprise or if the surprise is that it is for someone else. You deserve to know exactly what is going on. Then we report this information to you. Knowledge is power and if you know the truth, you can make a decision based on that knowledge and remove the “what ifs” from the scenario.
If you find yourself alone more than with the person you want to be with, and they always seem to have something important to do in Gravesend for example but are elusive as to what they are doing when they are there, perhaps it is time to have us look into what is so important. It is the best way to make sure that you are with the person that deserves to have your heart and will not break yours in return. Just take a moment to ask yourself a few key questions:
- Have they been acting differently for no reason?
- Are they too busy to spend time with you when they used to spend every minute with you?
- Are they always distracted or annoyed when they are with you?
- Do you feel in your gut that there is something not right?
- Do they “disappear” to take phone calls or hide their phone when they text someone and refuse to tell you who it is?
- Did they change the password to their phone and not share it with you? Their computer? What else have they changed the passwords to? Think about it…
- Are they suddenly hard to reach all the time and won’t explain where they have been?
- Have you noticed unexplained charges on your statements?
These are legitimate concerns and should be looked into by someone who is impartial as well as unknown to your partner. That is the only way to really know what is going on. While your friends and family may mean well, they are not going to find out what we can. You deserve to know if your partner has all four matching metaphoric hubcaps on when he or she is with you, or if they have two different versions – one reserved for you and one for someone else.
We have been doing this for over 30 years and know what needs to be done. So call or text us when you are ready. We are here to help when you do. However, in the meantime, I’m headed to my vehicle to replace yet another hubcap – literally.
Investigreat, LLC is a recognized full service Private Investigation Agency that is fully licensed, insured and bonded, handling cases in Queens NY, Brooklyn NY, Bronx NY, New York City, Staten Island and Long Island NY and all over Connecticut. Terri Dornfeld along with her husband, Adam have been working cases for Legal Teams, Insurance Companies, Private Businesses, Municipalities, School Systems and general investigation services for the public since 1992.
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